What is love?

Today I was reading How to Win the Culture War, and it was asking this very question.  What is love?  The author's answer was that it is war.  And its like what the heck?  That doesn't make any sense.  But then I get it, because in love you want the best for some one.  And sometimes that requires war, or going against their will. I think in the land of raising small children, the land that I am currently in, this really makes sense. More times then not in the last few months of 2 year oldness I have had to fight against my son's will because I love him.  I have to fight him not to stand on tables, or to walk on chairs, or not go running into traffic.  And I have to fight him in this because I love him and I want the best for him.

But is love always war?  I'd like to think not if you are in alignment with God's will, but how often are we really doing this or are we like my 2 year old and putting ourselves in danger by making poor choices.  I guess that when it comes down to it, we need to listen to be loved and then maybe we can not be at war in our love but in love the way that Hollywood romanticizes it. 

I leave you with one of my favorite songs of all time. 

This is Love by Cool Hand Luke

Is this loveor something to think of?
We fool ourselves for comfort,we're swayed by every wind.And if this isn't true love,then we can just pretend.But what is love?
This is lovethat you would die for me.
Is this real,or something to feel?
Confused by our emotions,confused by what we see.We trade in our patience,for false security.But is this love?
This is love,that you would die for me.
When I'm falling down,you save me.
This is how I know what love is.And I'd die for this.