Sometimes I think we get just a little bit self righteous about our ideals being smashed into smithereens by other people. And not that they are good ideals to uphold, but as a good friend told me today, you never can say what you would do in the same situation. And I think about this a lot because I think its great to uphold those ideals, its even better to give grace and mercy when we fail at them.
I say this because honestly, I screw up just as much as the next guy, if not more. I am constantly saying the wrong thing to my children or getting angry or anxious about things outside of my control. I mean just today I was ready to trade in my 3yo because he's been brutally mean to his baby sister the past few days. It was frustrating me that there was no voice of reason there in his actions, and I of course let him know that and probably not in the nicest of ways. And here's the thing that right there, I was totally lacking self control and patience and understanding. I failed at those virtues that are the same things that come into the bigger things, the things that come under attack in a bigger way for society.
I've been re-reading/listening to C.S. Lewis' Mere Christianity, and in reading it this time it stuck out to me the three types of morality. The first being to another person, the second being to oneself and that third to God. Its an interesting viewpoint of it, especially in a society of today where we are struggle so much with the first type that I'm not even sure two and three have any chance at being explored anytime soon. Morality in to another simply means that we do everything in our power to not harm our neighbor. And most people are probably stuck here, I know I am most the time. The next is morality to ourselves, so we have taking care of not harming others, but what about the damage we do to ourselves. Sometimes, I'm not even sure I understand this one, except that I know that decisions that we make for ourselves even if no one else is involved can really form or break us. And the last in the morality to God. In some ways it feels like this is connected to the first two, because well at least to me, they are relative to one another. Anyway, before it get in over my head, its interesting to consider morality in this way. It feels much more dependent on God's standard than what our society makes it out to be.
But I think its important to remember in life, that no matter how together someone may seem, they still struggle just like you. That a certain IQ or job title doesn't really put someone above making mistakes or acting out of character. We still all have to fight our concupiscence, and its good to remember that. It might just be a different battle to fight than your own. So be kind if you can, and if you screw up in judgement, well ask for forgiveness and keep pressing on.